Couples Therapy

Relationships are hard. They are also often worth fighting for.

Most couples who come to see me are hurting. Some feel like strangers, distant and disconnected, wondering where the closeness went. Others feel like adversaries, stuck in cycles of conflict that leave both partners feeling defeated and alone.

When I work with couples, I'm not looking for who's at fault. The way I see it, neither partner is the problem — the cycle is. And that cycle makes sense: the ways we protect ourselves from hurt in relationships are often the same things that create more distance over time: criticism, withdrawal, defensiveness. These aren't character flaws; they're understandable responses to pain. But they come at a cost.

Drawing from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy (IBCT), and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), I work with couples to understand their cycle in order to interrupt it. I see this as a collaborative process grounded in open dialogue, honest feedback, and genuine emotional safety.

Together, we will slow things down enough to see the pattern clearly, find the hurt, fear, and longing underneath it, and create space for both of you to take new emotional risks with each other. From there, the work becomes twofold: building acceptance for each other's differences and vulnerabilities, and making room for new, values-driven ways of showing up for one another.

The goal isn't to eliminate conflict, but to transform it — so that when it arises, you can move through it in ways that reinforce and strengthen trust and connection.

I work with couples struggling with

• Navigating transitions

• Parenting

• Communication and emotional expression

• Resolving disagreements

• Feeling distant or disconnected